Unsolicited Kissing Advice
In light of some recent advice, I choose to reveal some thoughts I have on a very important issue in dating…THE KISS.
Now, let’s get this straight, we all love kissing! If you don’t, you are missing out on life and need not continue reading more of this post.
Yet for the rest of us…let’s get back to business.
I will not indulge you readers in kissing secrets or sexy tips in how to kiss…at least, not yet 
. I will, however, speak of two all-too-frequent relationship killers called “NCMO” (non-committal make out) and kissing on the first date.
These two are closely related and may often be fun; however, let’s discuss the hidden, underlying reasoning for these “occurrences.” SELFISHNESS!
Case Study #1) The “NCMO” as it is known (or call it what you will) is when both parties convene only to make out and then have no ties to that person after their passion and lustful thoughts have been satisfied. They return as friends the next day with absolutely “no commitment.”
I honestly feel like I shouldn’t have to divulge much into this subject. We all know a NCMO shows no respect for the other person. You are using this person as a personal satisfaction tool only to succumb to your “Id personality trend“. It doesn’t matter if you both agree on the matter and proceed to move forward. This only means that both parties lack in the ability to constrain one’s lustful and inappropriate desires and it reveals weakness.
If you think about it…do either of you really want that as a personality trait of a significant other, or will someone actually find that attractive in you? NOPE!
*BREAK* (this is getting intense, however, I judge not, for I fear we have all given into such things. But the moral of the story is this: If there is any respect for the other, this would never happen)
Case Study #2) The first date kiss. You just had the best first date of your life! You are at the door step and you give each other a little peck. THAT’S GREAT! But that is where is should end! *Man, I feel like a parent saying this stuff.* Why do I say this? It is because rarely have I ever seen or heard of a relationship that lasted where the couple made out the first date.
But let’s get a little more personal… If I ever kiss a girl too soon in the relationship, i.e. the first date, I, most of the time, lose interest very quickly. Case and point. I also think that if you really cared about the person you wouldn’t want to rush it…in hope that it won’t ruin anything good you are feeling about how this new relationship is turning out. If you make out on the first date, it can most of the time be linked back to today’s word: selfishness.
Am I wrong here people? I know that there will be a few instances that it works out. But in my experience and from stories from many around me…kissing too quickly can ruin anything good you had.
If you are debating whether what I am saying is true or not, just think to yourself. “WHY do you want to kiss this person?” If it is lust…it is wrong. Lust will destroy any and every relationship. You want some good unsolicited dating advice: Treat your partner with respect. If you care more for the happiness of your partner than your own, then it’s love, or at least sincere feelings towards the other. But, if you care more about yourself and “getting a piece,” then it’s lust. Selfishness and lust are unruly and wrong. And I for sure want none of that in a relationship of mine.
