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1. STOP MOPING AROUND FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF!
   Yeah, lesson number one is that no one will find a depressed person sulking in their sorrows attractive! They won’t! And the half pint of ice cream or 5 buck hot and ready pizza mixed with a chick flick/war movie won’t help find someone either.  I don’t mean to sound insincere here, we all have hard times, broken hearts and sad days, which is fine, really, it is. Trust me, I have been there before, and I know we all need time to heal, recover and deal with those things. So be sure to give yourself that important time. But once you are ready for a new man/woman in your life…rid yourself from these nasty emotions and unattractive bad habits.
2. DON’T OVER ANALYZE EVERY PERSON YOU MEET!
   You can’t expect to know if every person you go out with is dating or even marriage material. Give it time. Always thinking about finding someone will only hinder the process. Honestly, how many times have you heard someone say they found their true love when they weren’t looking? Also, the best qualities take time to figure out! Which is daunting to think about, I know, especially since you just spent the last few years  of your life with an EX who is already engaged to someone else and you think “I HAVE TO GO THROUGH THAT ALL OVER AGAIN!?!?” Yet, it needs to be done, and with taking that time you will especially find the amazing quality of being able to love that person wholeheartedly, and if and when they share those same feelings…ahhh…sweet, sweet love! For true love is when you care more for the other person that you do yourself. But before I go on, let me explain my last point.
3. GET OFF YOUR BUTT
   Seriously, get out of your house/condo/apartment, find things you love to do…and do them! Let me explain why this is important. The equation is simple.
   A) You involve yourself in activities that make you happy, which then leads to…
   B) being surrounded by other people that love those activities, and/or, great date ideas to introduce your new love interest too. Which leads us to…
   C) you and your new partner are involved in activities you both love and find enjoyment in, or are able to support each other in. Conversations bloom and your love grows…it will grow so much that it will eventually do exactly what I finished my second point with, that your partners happiness becomes more important to you than your own.

Think about it, it’s simple! If your partners happiness is what brings you the utmost true happiness, and if you dedicate your life to making that other person happy, and your partner feels and does exactly the same, HOW COULD EITHER OF YOU EVER NOT BE HAPPY!? Wrap your mind around that one. But, then again, that might be my hopeless romantic self wishing or hoping that’s how love is…since you know…I am still single. But never mind that, this is still sound advice!

So, get over yourself, be patient and get out there and do the things you love! And before you know it, that special someone will be coming around the mountain soon enough. Trust me!