Nothing will destroy a relationship faster than entitlement. It’s a cancer… an emotional cancer that eats away at the greatest thing the world has to offer.

Love.

Just thinking about it makes me want to punch a kitten! (I told you it was a pet peeve.)

The demon of entitlement rears its ugly head in relationships in many different ways…

Absence of Gratitude

Our culture has created a process for propagating relationships. This basics of the system are as follows:

• Boy asks girl on date.
• Boy takes girl on date.
• Repeat

This process continues until one party becomes disinterested or the happy couple decides to get married.

Since this cultural pattern is so common, it’s easy for women to become accustomed to all of the attention and free food from douche bag guys who just want to get in their pants. This is where the skank-hoe originated.  After enough male attention, some women forget their manners and develop an attitude of entitlement. They are drafted as crew members on the Skank-hoe Boat. They only gift their attention to the men they deem worthy… normally those with either big trucks, big muscles or big bank accounts.

Listen up ladies! It doesn’t matter how sexy* a girl is, when she develops the mentality that you (a dude) owe her a drink, or dinner, or anything for that matter solely because you are the man and she is the woman, thus requiring you to treat her according to a certain set of rules… her rules… well… game over.

Relationships are give and take… or rather, they are give and give. Too often the givers get walked on, and the takers keep wondering why they end up alone.

Ladies, you’d be surprised how many guys would just melt in your hands if you simply said, “You always take care of me and pay for dinner. Tonight, it’s on me.”

If you pay close enough attention, it gets easy to recognize a giver from a taker, even after 1 or 2 dates.

My recommendation? Decide to be a giver. Don’t jump on the Skank-hoe boat. Be grateful and selfless in your relationships. Appreciate the things your significant other does for you…even if it’s routine. Put effort into love. Stop looking at it as how it can benefit you. In fact, do the opposite.

*I am not a huge fan of the word ‘sexy.’ I think it’s superficial and kind of demeaning… so normally when I use it, it’s in reference to someone who is only attractive until they open their mouth.

This post was going to summarize my feelings on this issue. I realized that it very quickly grew too long to be a singular post. Entitlement is now a multi-part series on this blog. More to come. Subscribe here.